Just because you have turned into a mom

Just because you have turned into a mom doesn’t mean you have to fit into the stereotypes. Ditch the minivan and the stereotypes about how you’re supposed to look and embrace yourself. Isn’t that what life is all about? How can you give something real to your child if you are too busy living up to the stereotypes of a mom? Many of the stereotypes are downright ridiculous. Some of these stereotypes include things like you have lost your sex appeal, you have lost interest in your own desires, and you are too busy to take care of your body or your hair, at least for the first ten years of motherhood. These are ridiculous stereotypes that only offer us a way to engulf ourselves in parenthood and forget who we really are.

Being a mom is about being who you are while raising a child. Parents are people who had children. You don’t enter some magical fantasy world of motherhood and suddenly give up your identity card. In fact, there is no ticket taker in the delivery room, holding out a sweaty hand that snakes away your identity and gives you a mom haircut in return. While you might want to go about being yourself with a sentiment of class, there is no reason to turn in your real self for the stereotypes that go along with being a good, well centered, and deserving mother. Being a mom is the most important thing you’ll ever do, so why not do it as the person you really are?

Unnerving Stereotypes

Age carries a few unnerving stereotypes that do not necessarily need to apply. There are stereotypes from everything concerning energy to the fun that is never had to the sexual intimacy that supposedly has disappeared. These are all old wives’ tales that have no actual relevance to age. Age is just a number and nobody needs to become a story book characterization that is defined by stereotypes.

There are no limits on people unless people wish to be limited. There is no need to succumb to stereotypical behavior just because you have yet one more birthday behind you. Instead you get to define your own behavior and your own lifestyle rather than determine your course based on someone else’s stereotype of how you should behave simply based on your age. Life is about creating your own definition rather than obliging the ideas that were put together by people who are younger than you and have no idea of what your age might mean to you. After all, when you are twelve you believe being thirty is old. When you are thirty, fifty doesn’t seem like it’s as old as it once seemed. Why we think it is okay to allow someone who has never stepped into our shoes to be able to determine the right stereotypes for us. That makes about as much sense as allowing the grocery clerk to create our financial portfolio for us. Stereotypes are assumptions, and we all know how we spell assume.