Just because you have turned into a mom

Just because you have turned into a mom doesn’t mean you have to fit into the stereotypes. Ditch the minivan and the stereotypes about how you’re supposed to look and embrace yourself. Isn’t that what life is all about? How can you give something real to your child if you are too busy living up to the stereotypes of a mom? Many of the stereotypes are downright ridiculous. Some of these stereotypes include things like you have lost your sex appeal, you have lost interest in your own desires, and you are too busy to take care of your body or your hair, at least for the first ten years of motherhood. These are ridiculous stereotypes that only offer us a way to engulf ourselves in parenthood and forget who we really are.

Being a mom is about being who you are while raising a child. Parents are people who had children. You don’t enter some magical fantasy world of motherhood and suddenly give up your identity card. In fact, there is no ticket taker in the delivery room, holding out a sweaty hand that snakes away your identity and gives you a mom haircut in return. While you might want to go about being yourself with a sentiment of class, there is no reason to turn in your real self for the stereotypes that go along with being a good, well centered, and deserving mother. Being a mom is the most important thing you’ll ever do, so why not do it as the person you really are?